How To Overcome Self-Doubt

Self-doubt is a thieve, it always has been and it always will be if we keep allowing it to be.

We all experience self-doubt at one point and some of us choose to thrive beyond it and others choose to get overwhelmed by it.

The problem with self-doubt is that we give into it for long, and it clouds our judgment and holds us back. We allow it more power over us than we ever should.

Recently I’ve been doubting myself and felt discouraged because of it. My usual self-esteem was nowhere to be seen. I am not one to doubt myself easily, but it crept up on me and I struggled to shake the feeling.

What made me doubt myself? Going through Pinterest and trying to find ways to better this blog I came across multiple bloggers who claim to make 6-7 figures from blogging a year or make $1 000’s a month, and I started to compare myself and my earnings to these standards and started to feel like such a huge failure.

We should learn to redirect our self-doubt, trust in the process, trust in ourselves, keep pushing forward, and not compare ourselves to others. We should learn to build our self-esteem.

I know that so many people doubt themselves, and I hope that this post will help change that. I hope this post can motivate you, inspire you, and build confidence in yourself.

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What is Self-Doubt

Self-doubt put simply is a lack of confidence, trust, and certainty in your abilities.

The Vibration of Self-Doubt

As you can see, feeling doubt is one of the lower vibrations.

Energy flows where attention goes. The more you focus on doubt the more the things you don’t want will find a way to manifest into your life.

And the more you focus on the doubt you feel, the more you will reaffirm to yourself that you are unworthy or incapable or not good enough.

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The Healthy Side of Self-Doubt

There is always a good side to negative emotions/circumstances. Experiencing doubt is normal and even needed sometimes.

https://mymoodpath.com/en/magazin/self-doubt/

What’s your level of self-doubt?

https://www.berkeleywellbeing.com/self-doubt.html
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🌸Comparing ourselves to others🌸

It is so easy to compare ourselves and our progress to other people and their progress. We compare ourselves to them in such a negative way that we begin to get discouraged and want to give up on whatever we’re doing.

Social media gives us easy access to amazing people to whom we compare ourselves without a second thought. We look at all they have achieved and try to compete with hundreds and even thousands of people. This is a fast track to doubting yourself.

Thank you CattleCapers for your contribution.

3 Levels of self-comparison

🌸Having expectations for a certain outcome🌸

We put so much pressure on ourselves to get to a certain outcome. We become disappointed and discouraged when we don’t achieve a certain level of success in a certain amount of time.

🌸Imposter Syndrome🌸

Imposter syndrome is that small voice that tells you that you are a fraud, that questions your credibility for doing things, and makes you feel undeserving of your achieved successes. 

🌸Questioning our abilities/thoughts/beliefs🌸

Usually, when we experience a change in mindset we start to question the path we’re on and our actions and influences on it.

This may not always be a bad thing, but it can lead to self-doubt.

🌸Important people who are negative🌸

We sometimes value the opinions of people close to us over our own, or we start to question whether our own thoughts are valuable.

🌸Encountering setbacks/obstacles🌸

When things don’t turn out the way we had hoped we tend to become negative and let doubt seep into our core.

Feeling stuck is also another gateway to self-doubt.

Self-doubt is a Thieve

Self-doubt steals from us because we allow it to. It keeps us from moving forward and can even cause us to go backward. It steals our confidence, our trust in our abilities, our trust in God/The Universe, and our trust in the path we have chosen for ourselves.

So many people of greatness, people who have achieved and created amazing things have experienced doubt and imposter syndrome before, but they didn’t allow it to stop them, and you shouldn’t either.

Let’s say that you continue to doubt yourself and throw all your goals and already achieved accomplishments in the dustbin. Where would you be in a week from now? still doubting whether you are worthy… In a month from now? wanting to go back, try again, but still doubting yourself… In a year from now? most likely full of regret. Ten years from now? maybe you’ll wonder why you were so caught up in your thoughts and didn’t just hold on a little longer and push through to see where it might’ve led you.

Doubting ourselves is to put ourselves on a path of regret and what-ifs, rather than lessons learned and successes gained.

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How to Eliminate Self-Doubt

I overcame my self-doubt by reminding myself to simply take the next step and not look at the whole staircase and trusting that I am getting to my destination at my own time and speed and that I have nothing to rush, nothing to worry about, and no one to compare myself with.

🌸Whatever you are in doubt of, continue doing it anyways🌸

Push through. Keep on taking the necessary actions, even when you are in doubt. Don’t allow doubt to hold you back.

“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”

– Vincent Van Gogh

🌸Strenghten your self-esteem and confidence🌸

Self-doubt is most likely caused by your lack of self-esteem and confidence, therefore it is your job to build it back up again.

  • Use positive self-talk. Be kind and encouraging to yourself. Talk to yourself with love and compassion.
  • Affirmations and Incantations.
  • Focus on your strengths.
  • Build up your knowledge and experience related to what you want to achieve.
  • Do more of what you love.
  • Try something new, step outside of your comfort zone.

Confidence is a skill

🌸Reevaluate your self-worth🌸

Your sense of self-worthiness shouldn’t increase or decrease by external factors like achievements or the opinions of others.

You are worthy simply because. And if you don’t believe that, it is time for a change in your mindset and beliefs.

Understand your worth

This also means to not compare yourself to others.

🌸Gain new insights🌸

Look for things and action steps that you can improve upon to have a better experience and outcome.

Find new insights, do some research, and you may find yourself discovering vital pivot points that will give you the necessary push in the right direction.

You can even ask someone you trust for help or honest insights.

🌸Journal🌸

Some journal questions for you:

  • What made you start in the first place?
  • Why did you keep doing it for so long?
  • What have you achieved so far?
  • Are you proud of how far you’ve come?
  • Do you still enjoy doing it?
  • What makes you doubt yourself?… why is this?
  • Would it be worth it to stop now and let doubt have the upper hand?
  • What would happen if you fail?
  • How do you define success

🌸Meditation and breathwork🌸

Meditation helps us look within and reevaluate our mindset and thoughts in a nonjudgemental way.

Breathwork is also great for clearing the mind and taking a step back.

🌸Trust the Process🌸

You’ve already come so far, why stop now? Put a little trust in yourself, believe that you are exactly where you are meant to be and that great things are yet to come.

Learn to trust and keep a positive and open mindset. Learn to trust your abilities and your own path and realize that everything happens as it should. We try too much to control everything, instead, we should let go a little, live a little and put a whole lot of faith and trust in the Universe/God.

🌸Turn to Gratitude🌸

There is always something to be grateful for. Always. Sometimes it is just a little harder to find those things or to be truly grateful. Turning to gratitude is the fastest way to reform your life and help you take the right steps forward with the right mindset.

The power of Gratitude

🌸Take a small break and have a good nights rest and start with a fresh and clear mind🌸

Go to bed and remind yourself that the following day is a new day and a new opportunity to do better. Start your morning with the determination to keep pushing forward.

How you start your morning determines how your day goes

Breaks are necessary for survival

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Inspiring Quotes on Self Doubt

20 Comments

  1. Become What We Do Now
    Then Nothing
    Left to Do Yet Do What We Do

    Hehe, Dear Karlien, i suppose
    i Will Just Say “Just Do It” too

    And Don’t Worry About

    Any Shoe
    Sales

    Particularly
    If We Don’t Have
    to RUN A Big Corporation Like ‘Nike’

    For It’s True Where Money Is Involved
    There Is Always More Than Just Do
    True There is Collecting A Pay

    Check That Will Be Such
    A Distraction For the
    Flow of Human
    iMaGiNaTioN
    And CReATiViTY
    Free For With MaKinG
    Money With Creativity And
    Productivity Always An External
    Audience to Satisfy True if We Get
    Hooked On Likes, Follows, And Even

    Views oF All That We Do However Yes
    Metrics Are Great to See What Influence
    We Might Bring to Help Others too And Also
    Obviously True Yes Usually We Have to Make
    Money to Survive Unless Independent of That
    Paper Green And Even Green to Gold In South Africa

    my FRienD
    Fear is the
    Source of So
    Much Human Weakness
    Stress Disorder And Disease

    Loss of Exhaling Peace And Exhaling
    Love As In This Place There is No Room For
    Anxiety or Self-Doubt Either That is Of Course Fear
    And Associated With Reductions in the Neurochemical
    Serotonin Yes The Self-Confidence Brain Juice That May

    Come Greater As We Become More Comfortable in Our Physical
    Bodies And Even Become Proficient in Martial Arts For Indeed We
    Are Part of the Animal Kingdom And As Long As We Do Not Have
    Any Experience in Successfully Defending Ourselves Physically

    There is Usually Less
    Confidence to Feel
    In the Jungle,
    Forest,
    And Deserts
    of Humans too…

    Yet True… No Need to Ever
    Strike Anyone Now Just A Free
    Dance of Moving Meditation Will
    Do For Literally Becoming Comfortable
    in Our Bodies This Way BOOSTS SEROTONIN
    REDUCES SELF-DOUBT AND RELIEVES US
    OF SO MUCH FEAR AND BODILY TENSION

    As so often in Somatic Ways That is Where
    Our Unresolved Emotional Issues Go indeed
    in Tension From Head to Toe Where Bio-Feedback
    Through Moving Meditation Will Actually Help to Regulate
    Emotions and Integrate Senses Where We Move More Like

    Lions and

    Lionesses

    Across the
    Savannah Through
    Non-Verbal Language
    Yes the Way We Move

    It is Usually Pretty Easy and
    Basic to See Who Is Self-Confident
    Without As Much Self-Doubt And Those
    Now Who Live a Life of Anxiety And Fears
    And Yes Of Course Self-Doubt And As Psychiatrists
    Admit Now Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is Not Enough
    As Indeed ‘The Body Keeps Score’ For All the Trauma We Experience in

    Life too

    Head Down

    And Depressed

    Or Standing Tall

    Making ‘A Lobster
    Pose’ Hehe as i often
    Do as A Yoga Pose
    YES IN PUBLIC LIKE
    MARKING MY TERRITORY

    LIKE A Wolf HAHA… Boosts
    Levels of Serotonin And Just
    Makes Me That Much More Confident
    In All i Do… It’s Like Writing Free Verse
    Poetry Every Where i Go Whether People

    Like me or Not or Like What i Do or Not Now

    i Generate My Own Happiness And Comfort
    Within Through A Danced Naked Enough Whole
    Without Any CuLTuRaL Clothes Of Tools At All…

    Naked Complete Whole Enough Look Around

    And Try to Imagine How People Would Feel This
    Way if Everything They Had Was Taken Away

    Yet the Skin They Wear And The Love They

    Give And Share Freely This Is Freedom

    my FRiEnD The Kind of Confidence

    The Rest of the Animal

    Kingdom Enjoys

    Without All the
    External Illusions
    That Humans Impose
    On Themself As Anxieties
    Fears and Self-Doubts that

    We Surely Won’t Worry About
    As We Take Our Last Breath on Earth…

    Basically Again Autotelic Flow A Practice Now
    Of Life That Brings Flight With No Need For Wings…
    And Of Course This Is Just Specifically From my
    View There Are Unlimited Other Ways to Do it
    Yet The Essence Becomes Fear Is For Others

    And Never
    Again
    An
    Illusion
    For Us Now
    With Smiles
    of Peace Inhaling
    Love Exhaling Best
    For All We Meet and Greet in Life…

    Living on the Autism Spectrum For 5.3
    Decades Never Comfortable in my Skin
    As A Biological And Environmentally
    Induced Challenge in Life Confidence

    Was One of the hardest Parts of
    All In Life As i Wasn’t Literally
    Comfortable in my own

    Skin i’ve Kept a Record
    of My Public Dance From the
    Beginning 8 Years Ago Until
    Today From the Beginning Where
    i was assessed as Ridiculous By
    the Viewing Public To the Years
    i was Assessed as Famous and
    Living Legend Literally As Such as
    Far As 200 Miles From Where i Lived
    As True still the only one Who Public
    Dances in a Radius of 500 Miles or More
    in the Deep South of the United States the
    Hardest place assessed by Social Science
    To Be Different in Life Traditionally So i Set
    Myself Free From Caterpillar to Cocoon to
    Butterfly With No Need For Wings Yet You
    See It Doesn’t Matter What Folks Call me
    Ridiculous or Legend I AM COMFORTABLE
    IN MY OWN SKIN JUST AS COMFORTABLE
    AT THE START AS I AM NOW… As True

    i Lost the Fear

    Before

    i even

    Started
    And That’s the
    Gift Then of the
    Worst Pain Known
    to Humankind Type Two
    Trigeminal Neuralgia from
    Wake to Sleep 66 Months No Drug Will Touch
    Will Do Take Away Hope and All Fear too..

    i Left the Fear
    Behind as
    i Came
    Out of the
    Cocoon my FRienD…
    After 5.3 Decades Fully As Such True…
    Yes as the ‘Imagine Dragons’ Sing “Pain
    Made Me A Believer” With 100 Percent
    Faith in Every Breath i Take Where Hope
    Is Not Even Required Any More As I am
    Sure As The Ocean is As Waves And Water Same…

    In This World We LiVE iN Today In This World of Competition
    And Impossible Goals to Achieve Having no Fears And Being

    Detached
    From that
    Keeping
    Compassion
    Is Gold Indeed
    For Verily i’ve Lived
    The Other Way Long
    Enough mY FRiEnD to Know the Difference…

    From Your Video You Seem Poised And
    Confident For Your Age in Your Non-Verbal

    Language A Sure Step to Removing All Self-Doubt
    As True Even Selfies And YT Videos Help As A Practice

    And A Journey
    THere as Well

    Some Folks
    Will Make it
    To A Place Without
    Fear Others May Never
    Do it in this Lifetime

    Now

    i Feel Sure You Will
    It’s Already Written In Your Stars…:)

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  2. You didn’t emphasize it, but the comment that our society values the “extraordinary” could certainly be cause for self doubt. With the internet & social media, the competition is now world wide. It’s easier to feel inadequate when the competitive/comparison pool is hundreds of millions, rather than the local pool of hundreds or thousands.

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  3. You are very right, the internet and social media make it all too easy to compare ourselves and dive into unnecessary competition.
    I’ll add it in now, thank you for adding your thoughts.

    Much love and abundance
    👣❤

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  4. Thanks Dear Karlien For
    Such An Informative
    And Inspiring Piece
    On Self-Doubt It
    Brought so Many
    Thoughts Out in
    Flow i Practically
    Flooded Your
    Blog Hehe
    With SMiles❤️🤗🙌🌈

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  5. HAha i Come Here
    For Your Kindness

    And

    The SIZE
    OF YOUR
    MinD, HeART
    SPiRiT SoUL

    Keep GRoWinG
    Your BIG BEAUTIFUL

    BRAIN 🧠 Dear Karlien
    i Will Surely Drop By
    To Water it With

    my FiRE Hose
    Size Flow of Words

    Hehe😜❤️🙌🤗

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  6. SMiles Dear Karlien
    You Can Count on
    The Fact i Am Always

    The Last Loyal
    Wookiee FRiEnD

    Left Standing🤗🙏
    With SMiLes🙌☺️❤️

    Just Another
    Wingman
    On Your
    Space Ride 💫

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  7. Karlien, your article is in-depth and well written. You did a lot of research on the topic of self-doubt. Focusing on where we came from will help eliminate all doubt. Just don’t believe things you read on social media. Take care. Scott

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  8. Thank you, Scott it means a lot to me.
    Thank you for this reminder, did you have any specific statement when you said it? Would love to get your view on it.

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  9. As far as not believing everything you read on social media, I wouldn’t trust how much money someone claims to make without proof. People do make money but for most of them it took time and work. Today I see people selling a program and promising quick money without much effort. There are a lot of scammers out there. The internet makes it too easy to create a fake lifestyle.

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