Doing what is best for you

You should respect yourself enough to be able to do what is best for you.

You will live a much more happy and fulfilled life once you start doing what is best for you.

Doing what is best for you means to make decisions that will benefit you, and make you feel better about who you are. Stop feeling bad for wanting to put yourself first, you may not see it as I do, but you are way more important for you to look after than anybody else, and the more you look after yourself, the more capable of looking after others you become.

Do what is best for you so that you can become your very best version.


How you can do what is best for you

๐Ÿ‘ฃUse your time and energy wisely

Something bad, but minor just happened, do you spend hours ranting, complaining, or feeling mad about it? Is it serving you to feel this way? You could have used all that time and bad energy and put it towards something better.


You probably have goals, work on achieving them.

If you don’t have goals, get out a piece of paper and think about what it is you want.

Where is it getting you to not work on your goals? Where could you have been if only you did what you wanted to do. Start now and stop waiting.

๐Ÿ‘ฃStop the people pleasing act

There lies great value in helping people, but there also lies attachment to gaining validation. The moment you want to help a person to feed your ego, you are people pleasing.

๐Ÿ‘ฃDo what you have to do until you can do what you want to

Make sure you dont procrastinate doing tasks to a point where they are completely delayed or incomplete.

Get your grind on and take care of all your responsibilities

๐Ÿ‘ฃAdopt a Growth mindset


๐Ÿ‘ฃWatch out for toxic/unexceptable relationships/behavior

The longer you stay in something that is not good for you, the harder it will be to let go.

Inconsistent behavior and flakiness are poor foundations for a relationship, and suggest a lack of respect. Self-respecting people have no time for those who waste their time.

They also refuse to tolerate any kind of abuse or poor treatment.

๐Ÿ‘ฃLive a healthy lifestyle

You have probably heard these things a million times, but its because it is the truth:

  • Exercise regularly
  • Drink water
  • Keep a water bottle while you work on something
  • Keep your environment clean
  • Have house plants, or an air purifier
  • ect.

๐Ÿ‘ฃUnderstand your worth

You should know your value. You should know whether someone is worthy of spending time with you. I am saying to do this in a humbling manner, it is more about spending your time with people who are worth it.

๐Ÿ‘ฃFind work you love and give it your all

Okay, we are still in the middle of a pandemic and jobs are being lost day by day and it becomes harder to keep a job never mind getting a new one, but I believe you can still do other things you are passionate about and turn it into your job over time.

With the right mindset, enough willpower, dedication, and passion you can make anything work.

๐Ÿ‘ฃDo the right thing

You will feel better about yourself for standing up for what you believe in or protecting someone when being wronged or even for rather telling the truth than lying. This will help you build your self-worth and self-respect.

๐Ÿ‘ฃTry to avoid gossip

I enjoy gossip, but I’ve seen what negative effects it can have both internally and externally. If you want to do what is best for you, you will commit to better conversation and stay away from mindless gossip.

Do you feel good after gossiping, after dragging someone’s name through the mud?

๐Ÿ‘ฃFomo-fear of missing out

When experiencing FOMO, and you decided to miss out on a party or event because you have things you have or want to do, remember your reasons. Whatever you are doing is probably much worth than hours spent talking nonsense and being somewhere that will get you nowhere. You are missing out for a reason, and why see it as missing out when you chose to do something more worth your time.

๐Ÿ‘ฃEmbrace making changes

When something doesn’t feel right, or if something no longer serves you, embrace making changes.

๐Ÿ‘ฃMake yourself proud

๐Ÿ‘ฃWhat it means to truly love yourself

๐Ÿ‘ฃSet yourself free

๐Ÿ‘ฃLive life in full bloom

๐Ÿ‘ฃHow you start your morning determines how your day goes


Poem– I have to do what’s best for me

Our connection is something devine

so I stuck by your side for the longest time

aware of the path that is full of self distruction

but oh, how can you say no to the sweet seduction


You gave me a one year trial

I know now where ‘us’ would lead

I’ve known months ago, but I was in denial

For the last time, my heart shall bleed


You were all I ever wanted

but your inconsistant behavior made me fix my vision

a journey of self-love and development has started

I had made my final decision


I have to give up on us, for me

No longer will I be

trapped in an unwanted reality

Now I finally see

I have to do what’s best for me



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Sending some love and abundance to you on this beautiful Saturday!

Thank you for visiting ๐Ÿ˜‰โค


  1. SMiLes Dear Karlien

    When Love is Complete

    Waving At Every Stranger
    One Meets Passing by in
    Cars on the Road Now

    Whether They Return
    The Wave or Not Feels
    Warm For the Giver of Warmth

    (Each Morning Walking Around my
    Neighborhood Block i Do this for Joy)

    Of Course It’s Easy For me to Say
    This As A Man Who Is Almost Impossible
    To Take Advantage of As The Giver Who
    Has Enough Complete Whole As i Surely

    Understand How it Feels to Be Completely
    Empty With Nothing to Give too And Yeah

    It Will Be A Whole Lot Different From A
    More Vulnerable Position As Strangers
    Will Be Dangerous of Course too

    It’s Like Being A Feral Tom Cat…
    The Veterinarian Will Tell You
    They Are Much More
    Friendly than
    The Female
    Cats From the Wild

    As Sadly A Feral Female
    Cat Often Receives a lot
    Of Abuse in the Wild And
    Shies More Away From Strange
    Humans As They Could Be A Source of Abuse too…

    It Really Feels Impossible to Live in the Same Household
    With A Toxic Person No Matter if they have been abused
    By someone in their Life or Not… And Of Course My Gosh
    You Are So Young And Males Your age Mature Emotionally So Much
    Slower Overall And In Particular in Your Case as You Seem to Be Very Emotionally Mature…

    It Surely took me A lot Longer Than Your Age With SMiLes and i am So Glad i Didn’t Get
    Married Until age 29 As it Really Took me Until age 28 to Finally Feel Whole, Complete, And
    Enough in my Life and My Wife Says that’s What Attracted Her Most to me i Seemed to Be A Whole



    Being With SMiLes..

    Thing is too Now We Evolve And
    We Potentially Devolve in Emotional
    Intelligence too And This Is why Your
    Blogging Is So Important As You Pursue
    This Avenue of Improving Emotional Intelligence…

    As Honestly These Days More Than Ever Before
    Even Finding Someone Warm Enough to Look Up
    From a Screen And Greet Someone With Warm
    Confident Whole Complete Enough Eyes of Love

    Is Becoming
    Harder than
    Ever Before to Find…

    SMiLes i could Easily See You
    Being A Psychotherapist For
    Folks One Day or Some Other
    Kind of Counselor As You Have
    The Human Touch Well Developed…

    Perhaps You Would Be the Psychotherapist
    Who Gained Enough Emotional Intelligence
    To Heal Someone With A Very Complicated
    Mood Disorder Like Border Line Personality
    Disorder that is Sadly Most Often Caused by
    Some Kind of Abuse in Early Ages or Neglect…

    And Some Psychotherapists Turn Them Away
    As They Just Give Up on them as Human Beings…

    i Always Try to Remember We All Walk in Different
    Shoes And At Least in Friendships i Have A lot of
    Room For Understanding And Forgiveness Yet Yes

    It’s True My God How Blessed i am to Have A Wife
    Who Wears Her Heart on Her Sleeve Where There
    Are Never Any Silent Games Sure There Are Angry

    Days Yet

    There are
    No Guessing
    Games And She
    Lives Her Life Complete
    Enough Whole Just to be
    in A Loving Relationship With Life..

    Indeed That is More Rare Than Ever Now my FRiEnD…
    You Are So Young i Hope You Find That Kind of Comfort One Day in 100 Percent Faith of Trust…
    Yet You Have So Many Years to Grow And Yes It’s Important You Find Someone to Grow with too…

    Other than that Human Relationships Are a Real Art That Requires Full Focus in Practice And Sadly

    For So Many
    People, People
    Are No Longer
    Put First on

    Life’s To Do List…
    That’S A World-Wide Disorder indeed…
    And A Very Dangerous one As Well my FRiEnD…
    As Well As Putting the Rest of Nature Down on the to Do List too..:)

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  2. A really good and informative post and a very timely reminder for us all.

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  3. karlien09 says:

    I appreciate it very much, thank you for these kind words

    Much love and abundance๐Ÿ™โค

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  4. Yeah. So true.
    Thanks my dear โค๏ธ๐Ÿค—

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  5. SMiles Dear
    The Appreciation๐Ÿ™Œโ˜บ๏ธ

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  6. karlien09 says:

    You have found love at the right time when both of you were whole, that is such a beautiful thing; I on the other hand thought I was whole and entered a relationship only to find more and more of my flaws, I am happy to work on myself; for I want to be whole and well developed for the special person I am bound to meet.

    Thank you for your insights, I didn’t even know what a psychotherapist was until you’ve mentioned it, and I would love to ponder on the idea further… It is heartbreaking to hear people who have set into that industry to help people only to turn those in need away and give up on them.

    It’s true we all walk a different path, and see things from different perspectives, it is probably why I love blogging on WordPress so much and meeting and communicating with these beautiful souls.

    You made me rethink my article for a moment… it is the reason my relationship ended, I wasn’t on his priority list and he would disappear and reappear and I would always let him back in with open arms, so yes putting others first is also important… but I still do believe in self-love and development and in that areas we should put ourselves first, for if we don’t love ourselves how can we possibly love someone else?

    A blessing to have you here dear friend, I am deeply honored and grateful ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™โค

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  7. karlien09 says:

    I wrote it more than just a few minutes ago and only saw now I never hit the send button ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™Œ


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  8. SMiLes Dear Karlien Here is Another Word And It is “Autotelic”
    The Ability One Develops In Flow of Activities in Focus of one
    Task That Through Bio-Feedback Allows Us to Eventually

    Generate Our Own
    Happiness even
    When We Are Not
    Doing the Focus on Task
    FLoWinG Activities And Yes
    Of Course Meditative Activities

    Will Be Best And in my Case i Use
    An Increasingly More Complex Free Dance and
    Meditation in Writing in Flow As i am Doing now

    too With SMiLes

    It As if Life Becomes

    A Dance And Song And
    We Get to Create The MuSiC
    Within That Makes Us Feel So
    Good As Soul Mates And Best
    FRiEnDS With Our Selves Yes Whole
    Complete And Enough that Makes it so
    Much Easier to Be FRiEnDS with Others
    And Even Tolerate And Accept Their Differences

    More As it is Us
    Who After Every
    Challenge Who
    Will Be Able
    To Generate
    Our Own Happiness Within
    in Bio-Feedback of Autotelic Meditative Flow
    Where The Activity We May Do May Become
    More and More Complex in Human Potentials
    Yet It Will Seem All Effortless in Ease in A Sweet
    Spot Tween Apathy and Anxiety Indeed mY FRiEnD
    And Yes Multi-UniVerses Do Exist Here on EartH!

    As Every Human Being is A Pair of God EYeS NoW
    And All the Rest Birthing A New Unique UniVerse
    to Perceive And Exist iN ETernal Now Change

    So Yes We aRe
    Different in Parts
    THiS Way YeT STiLL
    Whole of All in ALL ParTs
    That Make Existence Real
    We Do Assist to Co-Create
    With All As Well… SMiLes You
    Are A Unique And Very Talented
    Set of God EYes my FRiEnD Karlien
    Pleasure All Mine And Honor to Be Part

    of Your

    Human View True!..:)

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  9. HAha Yes Karlien iโ€™ve
    Written A Very Long

    Too Not
    Only Forgetting
    To Send It Shutting

    It Down too
    Yet Yes Just
    An Opportunity
    To Improve Again

    In Autotelic Flow๐Ÿ™Œโ˜บ๏ธโค๏ธ

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  10. karlien09 says:

    It’s both an honor and a blessing to read all your magnificent words.

    We are all connected, each of us is the universe expressing itself… A pair of God’s eyes; so beautifully said

    All very true words you penned down

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  11. karlien09 says:


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  12. Same Here
    Dear Karlienโ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ™Œโค๏ธ

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  13. ๐Ÿ˜€โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ˜Šโค๏ธ

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  14. A lovely post full of wisdom, Karlien. The poem is beautiful. Knowing when to end a relationship. Parting without hard feelings. Cherishing the memories of the good times. Many people never learn these lessons and live lives of bitterness and regret. You are on your way to a fulfilling life. โค

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  15. karlien09 says:

    Thank you, dear Cheryl, for your loving words. Always a blessing to have your support. โค

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  16. So lovely explanation ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒท

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  17. karlien09 says:

    Thank you Thattamma ๐Ÿ™โคโค

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  18. You are welcome ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒทโ™ฅ๏ธ

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  20. karlien09 says:

    Thank you for giving me that insight, it is so true we won’t do anything unless we have an interest or motivation in doing it. Thank you so much for sharing, I appreciate it.

    A blessing to see you here๐Ÿ™ Much love and abundance โค๐Ÿฆ‹


  21. Moreover as once i have brought out in my blog on ” LENGHTY POSTS” one should avoid too lengthy as people desist, going through lengthy post as they will be time consuming and may not be to the ‘point’.

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  22. karlien09 says:

    I agree this was one of my longer posts and not as straightforward as the others, but I do believe each word and heading was meant to be in this post, for it was related to the topic and someone out there may have needed to read something to help their growth, thus I am content with this post.

    I do appreciate the tip though, I hope you have a beautiful day ๐Ÿ™Œโค


  23. Difference between INTEREST AND MOTIVATION

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