You should respect yourself enough to be able to do what is best for you.
You will live a much more happy and fulfilled life once you start doing what is best for you.
Doing what is best for you means to make decisions that will benefit you, and make you feel better about who you are. Stop feeling bad for wanting to put yourself first, you may not see it as I do, but you are way more important for you to look after than anybody else, and the more you look after yourself, the more capable of looking after others you become.
Do what is best for you so that you can become your very best version.
How you can do what is best for you
👣Use your time and energy wisely
Something bad, but minor just happened, do you spend hours ranting, complaining, or feeling mad about it? Is it serving you to feel this way? You could have used all that time and bad energy and put it towards something better.
You probably have goals, work on achieving them.
If you don’t have goals, get out a piece of paper and think about what it is you want.
Where is it getting you to not work on your goals? Where could you have been if only you did what you wanted to do. Start now and stop waiting.
👣Stop the people pleasing act
There lies great value in helping people, but there also lies attachment to gaining validation. The moment you want to help a person to feed your ego, you are people pleasing.
👣Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to
Make sure you dont procrastinate doing tasks to a point where they are completely delayed or incomplete.
Get your grind on and take care of all your responsibilities
👣Adopt a Growth mindset
👣Watch out for toxic/unexceptable relationships/behavior
The longer you stay in something that is not good for you, the harder it will be to let go.
Inconsistent behavior and flakiness are poor foundations for a relationship, and suggest a lack of respect. Self-respecting people have no time for those who waste their time.
They also refuse to tolerate any kind of abuse or poor treatment.
👣Live a healthy lifestyle
You have probably heard these things a million times, but its because it is the truth:
- Exercise regularly
- Drink water
- Keep a water bottle while you work on something
- Keep your environment clean
- Have house plants, or an air purifier
👣Understand your worth
You should know your value. You should know whether someone is worthy of spending time with you. I am saying to do this in a humbling manner, it is more about spending your time with people who are worth it.
👣Find work you love and give it your all
Okay, we are still in the middle of a pandemic and jobs are being lost day by day and it becomes harder to keep a job never mind getting a new one, but I believe you can still do other things you are passionate about and turn it into your job over time.
With the right mindset, enough willpower, dedication, and passion you can make anything work.
👣Do the right thing
You will feel better about yourself for standing up for what you believe in or protecting someone when being wronged or even for rather telling the truth than lying. This will help you build your self-worth and self-respect.
👣Try to avoid gossip
I enjoy gossip, but I’ve seen what negative effects it can have both internally and externally. If you want to do what is best for you, you will commit to better conversation and stay away from mindless gossip.
Do you feel good after gossiping, after dragging someone’s name through the mud?
👣Fomo-fear of missing out
When experiencing FOMO, and you decided to miss out on a party or event because you have things you have or want to do, remember your reasons. Whatever you are doing is probably much worth than hours spent talking nonsense and being somewhere that will get you nowhere. You are missing out for a reason, and why see it as missing out when you chose to do something more worth your time.
👣Embrace making changes
When something doesn’t feel right, or if something no longer serves you, embrace making changes.
Poem– I have to do what’s best for me
Our connection is something devine
so I stuck by your side for the longest time
aware of the path that is full of self distruction
but oh, how can you say no to the sweet seduction
You gave me a one year trial
I know now where ‘us’ would lead
I’ve known months ago, but I was in denial
For the last time, my heart shall bleed
You were all I ever wanted
but your inconsistant behavior made me fix my vision
a journey of self-love and development has started
I had made my final decision
I have to give up on us, for me
No longer will I be
trapped in an unwanted reality
Now I finally see
I have to do what’s best for me
I hope you enjoyed this post, feel free to share any experiences, thoughts, or anything random with me in the comment section.
Sending some love and abundance to you on this beautiful Saturday!