3 Levels of self-comparison

We compare ourselves endlessly with everyone around us, and with people on social media, yet it is important to remember that you are your own person, and you have your journey, your own unique set of skills, talents, flaws, etc.

So I’ve put together the most common levels of self-comparison:

Level 1- When self-comparison is discouraging and destructive

This is simply when we feel bad about ourselves when comparing ourselves to others. This is when comparison meets negative emotions.

We tend to tear ourselves down further, going into a spiral of self-doubt and negative self-talk.

Level 2- Self-comparison meets with neutrality and acceptance

Your feelings are neutral. Not good nor bad emotions are connected with the process of comparing. You are accepting who you are and accepting who they are.

This is embracing who you are and what you stand for and knowing you have differences and those differences are to be celebrated. You aren’t seeing yourself better than the other person, you just see yourselves as two different people in two different lanes living two different types of lives.

I heard one woman say: I am okay with where I am/who I am, and at the same time I am striving to get to a certain point/become my ideal version.

Level 3- Self-comparison is encouraging

This is when you feel inspired and motivated when comparing. This is where positive energy comes in. You are motivated/inspired to be more like them or to want to have what they have and see what you can learn from them.

Success leaves clues, thus we have to look at people who have what we want and see what they do differently, and try to apply it into our own lives.


  1. Awareness is key. Become aware when you are comparing yourself to someone and become aware of what level you are doing it.
  2. Compare yourself to your past self and not others. Improve yourself, become a better version of you than you were yesterday
  3. Count your blessings. Be grateful.
  4. Be motivated not competitive/jealous. Change your mindset and emotions to see it differently.
  5. Don’t speak negatively about others.
  6. If you compare yourself to any type of picture on social media, in a negative way, let social media go for a while and reinvent yourself. Or turn that negative comparison into positive comparison, aka, motivation.
  7. Positive affirmations. Meditation. Journal. Read.
  8. Purpose. Hobbies. Passion.

Thank you so much for reading. Much love. Namaste.๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

Please check out his amazing post and his blog, I’m so glad I found this before publishing:

Never Compare Yourself โ€” M. Zeeshan Horani

A Lion and a shark were arguing and comparing themselves which each other. Lion said that it can hunt animals on the ground while the Shark claiming to be hunting in the deep sea. Both were calling each other useless. Actually, in my opinion, this argument was total baseless and waste of time. We cannot [โ€ฆ]



  1. So Good,
    You and your,
    Pleasant fragrance,
    So Good!!

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  2. karlien09 says:

    Thank you, dear friend, very happy to hear you liked it.๐Ÿ’ž Thanks for reading and taking some of your time to post a comment, I really do appreciate it๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•

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  3. Very well said and explained the issue so well. Thanks a million for reference of my blog. Keep writing and keep shining.
    Thank you so much
    God bless you

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  4. karlien09 says:

    It’s my pleasure๐ŸŒธ
    Thanks for reading and taking some of your time to comment, it is much appreciated.๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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  5. Always welcome,
    Keep blooming, Precious!!

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  6. Manish Malu says:

    Wow… Such a wonderful post… You have so nicely and in a simple manner explained a difficult topic…๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’•

    “You are you do not compare yourself with anyone. No one can do a better job of being you than you.”

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  7. karlien09 says:

    Very happy to hear you liked it๐ŸŒธ
    Thanks for reading and leaving your thoughts in a comment, it is very much appreciated.๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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  8. Manish Malu says:

    Your welcome…๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’•
    With your kind permission would like to reblog this…

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  9. karlien09 says:

    Please do๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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  10. Joel Abakah says:

    Self comparison is encouraging… this is especially true in cases where you compare yourself to people that have achieved so much in say a certain field you’re working in, just to draw motivation, positive attitude, and help improve upon your own techniques or approach to also get that high level.
    Thanks for sharing ๐Ÿ’š

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  11. karlien09 says:

    Precisely! very true indeed.
    Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts in a comment, I dearly appreciate it, always feel welcome to share your thoughts๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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  12. Nathi says:

    A profound and thoughtful provoking post on self-comparisonโœจ๐Ÿ’œ

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  13. karlien09 says:

    Thank you very much๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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  14. Nathi says:

    Always my pleasure ๐Ÿ˜‡ Keep writing and inspiring, Karlien!!

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  15. Shivam Choudhary says:

    Please follow my blog

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  16. “To compare one one value or one thing or one object with another=judgment =*Comparison*
    To compare *&* contrast the old *&* new=*Comparison*
    Comparison in any shape, form, or fashion is to send a message
    to others about your character, principles, *&* integrity=*Comparison*”

    _-Van Prince

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  17. Such a phenomenal and inspiring post. Loved reading those tips a lot. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿฅฐ

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  18. karlien09 says:


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  19. Very inspiring and thoughtful !

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  21. MetaMiss says:

    Itโ€™s so hard not to compare oneself with others, especially in the age of social media. This was a nice reminder

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  22. karlien09 says:

    Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, it is very much appreciated๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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  23. Important words!!

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  25. Ramya Vivek says:

    Often we forget that we are indeed unique and beyond comparison. Yet, when I am down, I compare myself with people who have lesser means to support their life. I derive strength from their energy and willingness to live life. It gives me immense strength and motivates me to stay positive.
    Good writeup ๐Ÿ‘

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  26. karlien09 says:

    That is wonderful๐Ÿ˜„. Thanks for sharing your experience, it is very much appreciated๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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