We compare ourselves endlessly with everyone around us, and with people on social media, yet it is important to remember that you are your own person, and you have your journey, your own unique set of skills, talents, flaws, etc.
So I’ve put together the most common levels of self-comparison:
Level 1- When self-comparison is discouraging and destructive
This is simply when we feel bad about ourselves when comparing ourselves to others. This is when comparison meets negative emotions.
We tend to tear ourselves down further, going into a spiral of self-doubt and negative self-talk.
Level 2- Self-comparison meets with neutrality and acceptance
Your feelings are neutral. Not good nor bad emotions are connected with the process of comparing. You are accepting who you are and accepting who they are.
This is embracing who you are and what you stand for and knowing you have differences and those differences are to be celebrated. You aren’t seeing yourself better than the other person, you just see yourselves as two different people in two different lanes living two different types of lives.
I heard one woman say: I am okay with where I am/who I am, and at the same time I am striving to get to a certain point/become my ideal version.
Level 3- Self-comparison is encouraging
This is when you feel inspired and motivated when comparing. This is where positive energy comes in. You are motivated/inspired to be more like them or to want to have what they have and see what you can learn from them.
Success leaves clues, thus we have to look at people who have what we want and see what they do differently, and try to apply it into our own lives.
- Awareness is key. Become aware when you are comparing yourself to someone and become aware of what level you are doing it.
- Compare yourself to your past self and not others. Improve yourself, become a better version of you than you were yesterday
- Count your blessings. Be grateful.
- Be motivated not competitive/jealous. Change your mindset and emotions to see it differently.
- Don’t speak negatively about others.
- If you compare yourself to any type of picture on social media, in a negative way, let social media go for a while and reinvent yourself. Or turn that negative comparison into positive comparison, aka, motivation.
- Positive affirmations. Meditation. Journal. Read.
- Purpose. Hobbies. Passion.
Thank you so much for reading. Much love. Namaste.🤗💞
Please check out his amazing post and his blog, I’m so glad I found this before publishing:
Never Compare Yourself — M. Zeeshan Horani
A Lion and a shark were arguing and comparing themselves which each other. Lion said that it can hunt animals on the ground while the Shark claiming to be hunting in the deep sea. Both were calling each other useless. Actually, in my opinion, this argument was total baseless and waste of time. We cannot […]NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF — M. ZEESHAN HORANI