Have you ever put someone on a pedestal? Maybe you have, it could have been as simple as having a huge crush on someone so badly that you aren’t even yourself around them, you are quiet and withdrawn more than usual and don’t know how to act around that person. Or maybe somebody even put you on a pedestal, admiring you, telling you how great you are at every given chance to a point that you don’t even know how to keep reacting.
See the thing is, when we put someone high up on that pedestal we are basically downgrading ourselves. We idalise that person in a wrong way, seeing everything they are and we are not.
This is, in my opinion, the worst thing you can do, looking at someone and seeing everything you are not. The moment we compare ourselves to them, seeing them as gods and goddesses, is the moment we forget our self-worth, downgrading ourselves in the most negative way possible.
Creating seperation (Pushing them away)
The higher you put someone up on that pedestal, the more you are different, creating a vibe of separation and distance, which cannot always be easily corrected and changed. I am not saying put yourself up on that pedestal, ’cause it can be just as dangerous when it comes to creating seperation, but rather see your value, but see theirs too without putting them way above you.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying admiration is a bad thing, I am simply saying that admiration becomes a bad thing when in the process you connect negativity to yourself or the other person and then create seperation. Admire people, but do it without putting them way above or below you.
Focus on building yourself up. Let others create themselves. It levels the playing field and gives everyone the space and freemdom to own their own light~Ateeya Manzoor https://pin.it/7r8qDy6
Questions to ask:
- Are you building them up or really putting yourself down?
- Are you uplifting them or hiding behind them
- Celebrating their beauty and success or failure to see your own?
- Are you putting their worth above yours?