Why you should stop searching for love

You are probably here because you are single and let me guess, searching for love and trying to find The One, but let me tell you something…Needing to have something pushes it further and further away from you… Have you ever desperately searched for an item, throwing your whole place upside down only to find it when you have stopped searching? and in some cases, it was even right beneath your nose that whole time! So stop needing and searching to have a love life and you will find it.


1. Being single is a gift

Yes, you read that correctly, it’s a gift. Don’t dread being single, enjoy it and see it as the process to love yourself, to become the best version of yourself, because when we make ourselves whole, we don’t need somebody else to make us happy, but rather only contribute to the happiness. Be a happy single person and just be. Maybe even see it as dating yourself.

Don’t let the gift rot in a lonely dark cupboard somewhere, instead use it. Use it to learn to be happy on your own. Appreciate it. Do things you love doing. I saw a quote that said; if single is a gift can I exchange it? Why would you want to exchange it? Can you truly be happy with someone else when you cant even be happy on your own?

We attract people into our lives that are more or less the same as us. Have you realized you are almost a different person to each person? That some people bring out different sides. All those different qualities live inside you, and I believe that different people come into our lives to help us realize that those parts exist inside of us and it is what we do about it, do we suppress or enhance it. This goes for good and bad. If someone is constantly mean to you for no reason, maybe internaly there is a battle of emotions going on, figure it out and work through it.What I mean to say here is, become the best version of you. Spiritually. Physically. Emotionally.

2.Energy goes where attention flows

If you focus on the good, you’ll attract and see more good. The same goes for the bad, if you see bad, you will only see and attract worse things. See it as a good thing to be single, as a opportunity to attract the perfect guy into your life that holds all the standards you have set out to get. Enjoy being single all you can and stop trying to find someone. The sooner you let go of your wants the sooner you’ll be rewarded. Rather spend your energy on yourself, turn every single negative into a positive.

3.Act taken even if you are at the point of adopting eight kittens.

Have you ever been in a relationship and then suddenly more guys are after you than there were before you started dating? And when you are single, not that many guys approach you? Well, that is the thing, you are not focused on the other guys and that makes you more of a challenge. That energy you give out when you are committed should be given out as if you are committed to yourself, and once again not searching for someone. You’ll appear more attractive and what is more attractive than a woman who is happy and truly loves herself?

4. You’ll learn to value yourself more

The more time you spend with yourself, the more you will get to know yourself, the more you will love yourself and then finaly the more you will have love to give for others. Love comes from within not feom outside. You can change the world through learning to love yourself first, from the inside out. You are only as strong as your weakest link, isn’t that just so very true? How can you love a person so much but dont like yourself as a person? Sorry to say, but you can only love a person as much as you love yourself, otherwise i believe that person is only your way to escape from reality.

With self-love comes more value and higher standards and that is a good thing. Dont let anyone ever tell you that it is bad to have high standards cause you will never find someone. I am not saying put a high standard on every little detail, I’m saying, know what you want and wait for it without looking too hard for it.

🌸So my message is basically to just love yourself and let love come find you while you are busy becoming the best version of yourself🌸

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  1. My soon to be published book is titled, *Love In All Intricacies Is Real* *&* this book in one way or another will affect millions of intimate lovers cross cultures! “Love is the Debut, Intermission *&* Encore of Life unfolding out of Nature!”

    _Van Prince

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  2. 🔥🤗❤…I am very happy to hear you like it🔥
    I seriously can’t wait, please keep me up to date and tell me the release date and the rest of the details🔥🌸


  3. Well written, you’ve shared so many truths. True, we have to vibrate to love to attract love so loving oneself is the first step.

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  4. I would add one other thing: When our life’s focus is the relationship we seek (or the relationship we are in), there is little time for anything else valuable. It is wonderful to find true love. But those who are single have more time and flexibility to devote themselves to others. Find a cause that matters to you, and share your talents. You may be surprised at the outcome. Not only will you help make the world a better place, you may actually meet someone worth spending your life w/.

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  5. There is Amazing Universe within,
    Waiting with doors wide open,
    Eagerly waiting for us to arrive,
    Whatever creation creates is,
    Completely complete,
    Absolutely absolute,
    All we have to do is,
    Step within thru the,
    Welcoming doors to the,
    Universe waiting within,
    So that we can experience ourselves,
    So that we can know ourselves,
    If we have not experienced ourselves,
    We have not at all known ourselves,
    Experiencing and knowing are synonym,
    Once we experience our completeness,
    Once we experience our absoluteness,
    Now no matter where we are,
    Surrounded by every well-wisher or,
    Residing by ourselves on the mountaintop,
    The precious Flower Of Life,
    Will always keep on Blooming,
    Effortlessly pleasant more than ever before!!

    Life To Bloom !!

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  6. You see precious,
    When you smile,
    This Amazing Universe,
    Smiles with you, thru you, around you,
    How can we hold,
    This Beautiful Sky,
    With our two hands,
    What we can do is,
    We close our eyes,
    This Beautiful Sky,
    Opens up within,
    It is the same Universe,
    Within the bubble and without,
    There is just that thin layer,
    For the bubble to experience,
    The smiling sky on itself,
    For those precious moments,
    Once the bubble bursts,
    The illusion of duality disappears !!

    Thanks for the blessings!!

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  7. It’s my pleasure🤗… Thanks for writing so beautifully in my comments, it is deeply appreciated🔥❤ You have a bright soul🔥


  8. You don’t find love
    love finds you
    you can feel love
    love is invisible
    love sees you
    you can’t see love
    love hear you
    you can’t hear love
    love fines you
    it’s impossible
    for you to find love
    stop searching for love
    love search for you
    love finds you
    wait on love
    when love find you
    love will never leave you
    love will love

    _-By: Van Prince

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  9. We are not single. We are always with the people who loves us. Our parents, siblings, friends…. when time allows a person called partner arrives to our life. If that person has the power to understand us, life becomes more successful and meaningful

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  10. Indeed we have all this love around us🔥❤ And I believe by loving ourselves we learn to be in even better harmony with our loved ones.🤗❤

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  11. We are single if we don’t mingle *&* if people loved themselves first *&* another intimate after that there wouldn’t be lots *&* tons of broken hearts to mend as love always goastry sooner than later!

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  12. Indeed💥 there would be more love and fewer heartaches in the world if people focused on themselves first without searching for love. True love will find us when we least expect it.🔥 So happy to hear you liked my post🤗❤

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  13. Your works will be discovered by others, and most verb superb writings are hidden because too many writers don’t refer your creativity to others and if they come together and pool their sources and resources every good writer would reach their goals faster=keep writing=you are superb!

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