Why you should stop searching for love

You are probably here because you are single and let me guess, searching for love and trying to find The One, but let me tell you something…Needing to have something pushes it further and further away from you… Have you ever desperately searched for an item, throwing your whole place upside down only to find it when you have stopped searching? and in some cases, it was even right beneath your nose that whole time! So stop needing and searching to have a love life and you will find it.


1. Being single is a gift

Yes, you read that correctly, it’s a gift. Don’t dread being single, enjoy it and see it as the process to love yourself, to become the best version of yourself, because when we make ourselves whole, we don’t need somebody else to make us happy, but rather only contribute to the happiness. Be a happy single person and just be. Maybe even see it as dating yourself.

Don’t let the gift rot in a lonely dark cupboard somewhere, instead use it. Use it to learn to be happy on your own. Appreciate it. Do things you love doing. I saw a quote that said; if single is a gift can I exchange it? Why would you want to exchange it? Can you truly be happy with someone else when you can’t even be happy on your own?

We attract people into our lives that are more or less the same as us. Have you realized you are almost a different person to each person? That some people bring out different sides. All those different qualities live inside you, and I believe that different people come into our lives to help us realize that those parts exist inside of us and it is what we do about it, do we suppress or enhance it. This goes for good and bad. If someone is constantly mean to you for no reason, maybe internally there is a battle of emotions going on, figure it out and work through it. What I mean to say here is, become the best version of yourself. Spiritually. Physically. Emotionally.

2. Energy flows where attention goes

If you focus on the good, you’ll attract and see more good. The same goes for the bad, if you see bad, you will only see and attract worse things. See it as a good thing to be single, as an opportunity to attract the perfect guy into your life that holds all the standards you have set out to get. Enjoy being single all you can and stop trying to find someone. The sooner you let go of your wants the sooner you’ll be rewarded. Rather spend your energy on yourself, turn every single negative into a positive.


3.Act taken even if you are at the point of adopting eight kittens.

Have you ever been in a relationship and then suddenly more guys are after you than there were before you started dating? And when you are single, not that many guys approach you? Well, that is the thing, you are not focused on the other guys and that makes you more of a challenge. That energy you give out when you are committed should be given out as if you are committed to yourself, and once again not searching for someone. You’ll appear more attractive and what is more attractive than a woman who is happy and truly loves herself?

4. You’ll learn to value yourself more

The more time you spend with yourself, the more you will get to know yourself, the more you will love yourself and then finally the more you will have love to give to others. Love comes from within not from outside. You can change the world through learning to love yourself first, from the inside out. You are only as strong as your weakest link, isn’t that just so very true? How can you love a person so much but don’t like yourself as a person? Sorry to say, but you can only love a person as much as you love yourself, otherwise I believe that person is only your way to escape from reality.

With self-love comes more value and higher standards and that is a good thing. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that it is bad to have high standards cause you will never find someone. I am not saying put a high standard on every little detail, I’m saying, know what you want and wait for it without looking too hard for it.

🌸So my message is basically to just love yourself and let love come find you while you are busy becoming the best version of yourself🌸

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  1. My soon to be published book is titled, *Love In All Intricacies Is Real* *&* this book in one way or another will affect millions of intimate lovers cross cultures! “Love is the Debut, Intermission *&* Encore of Life unfolding out of Nature!”

    _Van Prince

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  2. 🔥🤗❤…I am very happy to hear you like it🔥
    I seriously can’t wait, please keep me up to date and tell me the release date and the rest of the details🔥🌸


  3. Well written, you’ve shared so many truths. True, we have to vibrate to love to attract love so loving oneself is the first step.

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  4. I would add one other thing: When our life’s focus is the relationship we seek (or the relationship we are in), there is little time for anything else valuable. It is wonderful to find true love. But those who are single have more time and flexibility to devote themselves to others. Find a cause that matters to you, and share your talents. You may be surprised at the outcome. Not only will you help make the world a better place, you may actually meet someone worth spending your life w/.

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  5. There is Amazing Universe within,
    Waiting with doors wide open,
    Eagerly waiting for us to arrive,
    Whatever creation creates is,
    Completely complete,
    Absolutely absolute,
    All we have to do is,
    Step within thru the,
    Welcoming doors to the,
    Universe waiting within,
    So that we can experience ourselves,
    So that we can know ourselves,
    If we have not experienced ourselves,
    We have not at all known ourselves,
    Experiencing and knowing are synonym,
    Once we experience our completeness,
    Once we experience our absoluteness,
    Now no matter where we are,
    Surrounded by every well-wisher or,
    Residing by ourselves on the mountaintop,
    The precious Flower Of Life,
    Will always keep on Blooming,
    Effortlessly pleasant more than ever before!!

    Life To Bloom !!

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  6. You see precious,
    When you smile,
    This Amazing Universe,
    Smiles with you, thru you, around you,
    How can we hold,
    This Beautiful Sky,
    With our two hands,
    What we can do is,
    We close our eyes,
    This Beautiful Sky,
    Opens up within,
    It is the same Universe,
    Within the bubble and without,
    There is just that thin layer,
    For the bubble to experience,
    The smiling sky on itself,
    For those precious moments,
    Once the bubble bursts,
    The illusion of duality disappears !!

    Thanks for the blessings!!

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  7. It’s my pleasure🤗… Thanks for writing so beautifully in my comments, it is deeply appreciated🔥❤ You have a bright soul🔥


  8. You don’t find love
    love finds you
    you can feel love
    love is invisible
    love sees you
    you can’t see love
    love hear you
    you can’t hear love
    love fines you
    it’s impossible
    for you to find love
    stop searching for love
    love search for you
    love finds you
    wait on love
    when love find you
    love will never leave you
    love will love

    _-By: Van Prince

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  9. We are not single. We are always with the people who loves us. Our parents, siblings, friends…. when time allows a person called partner arrives to our life. If that person has the power to understand us, life becomes more successful and meaningful

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  10. Indeed we have all this love around us🔥❤ And I believe by loving ourselves we learn to be in even better harmony with our loved ones.🤗❤

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  11. We are single if we don’t mingle *&* if people loved themselves first *&* another intimate after that there wouldn’t be lots *&* tons of broken hearts to mend as love always goastry sooner than later!

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  12. Indeed💥 there would be more love and fewer heartaches in the world if people focused on themselves first without searching for love. True love will find us when we least expect it.🔥 So happy to hear you liked my post🤗❤

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  13. Your works will be discovered by others, and most verb superb writings are hidden because too many writers don’t refer your creativity to others and if they come together and pool their sources and resources every good writer would reach their goals faster=keep writing=you are superb!

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  14. you are blessed=when one is a loss for words God is restoring the soul with masterpieces *&* refueling the mind with volumes of adjectives, verbs, adverbs,nouns *&* pronouns to become Rich!

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  15. One of the most relatable quotes I’ve heard relating to just this idea is, “A watched pot never boils.” We can spend all our time searching and neglecting ourselves, or we can be organising our own life, and be open to the right thing, the right person, when it is the right time.

    Thank you for sharing. 😊

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  16. Your words are too kind dear friend!😄
    May everyone read your works as well, I for one can’t wait for your books to be published.🥂💞 You are an inspiring writer dear friend and has made my WordPress journey a whole lot easier and fun, thank you💞


  17. Your creative works manifest from a place of innovation *&* you are becoming a solar star in writing=you are pure as the driven snow in literary history with your stories outta your heart, mind, body, *&* soul!

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  18. It seems that we are the only writers up *&* about *&* about our creative works *&* it works for me to have an over-the-counter-encounter with another writer with your gift with words that give life *&* nature extra meaning!

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  19. I read many arts of different creative writers, there are much love and amazing arts in this WordPress community alone.

    I am so happy to add value, yes our encounter is over the top and I enjoy every bit of it🤗💞
    Your talents of interacting alone is amazing and then your writing is just as amazing!💞


  20. All the love we need will come to us when we truly examine the causes of our self rejection.. I believe it is an illness that is like wildfire in our society.. external referencing leads to increased social anxiety.. we must love us first and foremost, we cannot truly love others or set good boundaries until we do…

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  21. Indeed, very true words… We focus too much on finding love outside of ourselves, but it is when we love ourselves that we no longer search for that love and then invite that love into our lives…
    Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts, it is truly appreciated💕
    Much love. Take care🤗💕


  22. I think it is brave of you to say this, because in wandering the blogoverse I have found that the absolute essential and most important aspect of too many people’s lives is finding something they think they need and don’t have, usually love or a relationship. It is absolutely essential to be satisfied with oneself as a priority before imposing that self on some other human. Those romantic relationships we think we need so much, that is just an animalistic programmed sexual species survival mechanism. There are already too many people, so that babymaking imperative is unhealthy for the planet and society and frankly too often for some individuals. But I’m not criticizing “true love” which can be amazing, only the obsessive craving for it. Sigh…..I guess we work better as families, maybe it is family that we truly crave. Well, I say it is good to be a little bit wrong and a little bit right sometimes, as long as you recognize it.

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  23. Are you really only 16? As I said, you seem to have amazing insight. When I was 16, 26, 36, and 46 I was still all about sex and drugs and rock and roll. It took a lot of hard life and experience to achieve the “certainty” I now possess. According to some gurus, it is the esoteric, or innerly constructed, wisdom that is most important for self-realization. What years and years of life and external experience provide is a kind of vocabulary in which to express that wisdom.
    Thank you!

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  24. Very true and wise words. I couldn’t agree more with you.

    Ughhh…I obsess about finding true love, at least I did until I became aware of it. We are raised to have an education, find a job for survival, meet the man/woman of your dreams, and have kids. We crave these things and I had to do a self-search to know what I truly want and not what others expect of me…I know that THE ONE exists and he will find me when I least expect it, so why go searching for it? Why keep dreaming, fantasising, and hoping? (Sorry for starting a bit of a rant there)

    Anyways, you said it well…it is good to be wrong and right sometimes as long as we recognize it.

    Thanks for your insightful comment🤗💕
    Much love and take care🤗💕

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  25. Wow, may I ask how you got to turn your life around?

    We each have a different path in life and a different way of walking it. I am not sure where my insights come from this early on life, but if I have to guess, I would say I was basically raised by 3 different types of parents, my parents, and my grandparents. My parents are strict but let me do what I want to do(mostly), because they believe I have my own life to live and I know what is right and wrong. One side of my grandparents was very religious, though I am not religious today I still have learned many lessons that still apply to my spirituality, then of ourse, I also follow spiritual gurus. My other grandparents taught me this thing, called unconditional love. Then there is the universe that throwed a lot of struggles in my way since I was a tween..I trust the universe has a plan and bigger purpose than myself, for me. So I am basicaly saying these different experiences created some of the wisdom and insight that you see in me.

    I would absolutely love to hear more about your story, if you are willing to share?

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  26. Well then, someday, not today, I will write a blog just for you. I believe I was always on the right path, but I can tell you this much. Many years ago, rudderless and homeless and unsure what path to follow, I sat down in a McDonald’s and had a discussion in my mind with “God.” For the next few years, I started repeating a mantra: “I will do God’s will.” Over and over and over, aloud when I was out on the highway or in some field or forest, silently when I was in public. Eventually there was no more need to say it or think it. Whatever self-destructive awful things I did, mistakes I made, erroneous and delusional thinking, all that helped make me what I am now, and there is no more seeking to be done, nobody I need to meet, no new wisdom I must learn in order to…….no, there is not even a goal anymore, and it is absolutely right that this is how it is, and I am just passing time on the way to what I don’t know and in the way that seems best to me.

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  27. I am reading all your post because they are spot on, minus bits that I won’t mention. You are only 16!? I can only marvel at your wisdom. You will go far, Karlien.


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  28. 😜😂Yeah, just excuse the bits😜😂
    Thank you so much, it is truly deeply appreciated. I hope to write as well as you do someday.😄💞

    Much love and abundance. Take care🤗💕


  29. You have to love yourself, you have to be positive about yourself, then it doesn’t matter if you are single or not. You don’t need a guy’s support.
    best regards

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  30. True, very true indeed! Thanks for reading and taking the time to leave a much-appreciated comment.

    Much love and abundance. Take care.🤗💕


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