What it means to truly love yourself

Loving yourself? What does that mean and how do you even do it? Let me tell you, it is actually quite simple; it means that you are in a relationship, but the only difference is that it is a relationship with yourself. Loving yourself means to be the best for you, and to push yourself to become a better version of you every single day. Putting in the time, love, and care as you would in any other relationship, committing ourselves to ourselves like never before.

Loving yourself means to become your own best friend and partner. You wish only the best for your partner or friends, right? Start wishing the best for yourself. Start seeing your true worth and let life align with your worth and standards. I’m not saying that you should let all your friends and your partner go to play that role, no, you can start to play that role without diminishing any friendships and relationships. Start being there for yourself, isn’t that what love is? To support, care, cherish, appreciate and spending time with someone, to protect and motivate, to help someone back on the right path and all these million little things. Everyone defines love differently, but I view it as these little things that adds up into love.

We give our love and time away so easily, without keeping some of our love for ourselves. Let me tell you, the more love you put into yourself, the more love you will get to give away.

This is a simple statement, yet a bit harder to accomplish, which begs the question; How to fall in love with myself? How do I love me?

1. Prioritize yourself

Spend time alone….with yourself of course 😉 Put yourself first, even if it’s just for a little while. Learn to love yourself without the love of others. Take yourself out on a date, have fun, learn a new hobby, or continue doing something you hadn’t done in a long time.

Do something that makes the world around you disappear. Journal, meditate, take a long warm bubble bath surrounded with scented candles. Treat yourself.

🌸Avoid negative self-talk and replace it with positivity and motivation and most importantly, love.
🌸The key is being…Just be in the moment, don’t dwell on the past and don’t think too much ahead
🌸If any emotions suddenly arise, don’t push them back down, feel them, work through them and accept them, see it as a good thing to feel those emotions.
🌸BE GRATEFUL- this is so important to work into every day of your life, I can’t stress enough how powerful and necessary true gratefulness is in your life. In fact, make it a point to concentrate on at least 5 things you are grateful for daily.

Make a gratitude journal and give thanks daily, I talk from personal experience when I say it is life-changing. And if you’re into law of attraction and manifestation and that kind like things, you’ll really not regret being grateful.

2. Grow

Set goals, have dreams, and work on yourself. Loving yourself means looking in the mirror and liking what you see, while still wanting to look good/better for yourself, not only physically but mentally and spiritually too. Beauty goes beyond the surface.

It is so important for you to motivate yourself to accomplish your goals for you. You want the best for you, don’t you? Grow in any way possible. Become the best version of yourself.
🌸Read, journal, meditate… I know I’ve mentioned this before, but it’s so powerful in understanding who you are and growing to the person you want to become.
🌸Eat and live healthier… No, I’m not saying punish yourself into a diet you don’t want to do and drinking 10 glasses of water every day, I’m saying that you should do something bit by bit.
🌸Yoga, gym, or exercise, even if it’s just for a quick 5 minutes a week. Take a walk, or do whatever makes your heart race a bit faster and makes your body feel better and energized.
🌸Take care of your environment. Look around you, whether you are in your room at work or whatever, are you happy with what you see? Do you like the space around you and the feeling that comes with it? If not, do something about it! Clean the space. Fill it with colors that give you positive vibes. Is there any dust, get rid of it. Cluster? Take it to another space where it won’t bother you. Do you get my flow? Have an environment where you can thrive, where you always feel good and motivated.
-Do yourself a favor and do research on Fung Shui-

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3. Do what you love

Find your passion, follow it, work on it, and just have fun. If something makes you happy, do more of it. If you like meeting new people, go out and meet new people. If you like dancing, take dancing lessons. Drawing, draw. Singing, sing. Just have fun.

Bored? play loud music and dance with every fiber in your body like no one is watching. Enjoy yourself more often, laugh at yourself when you do something stupid and silly, like slipping on a wet floor, like hitting your toe against furniture, or accidentally breaking glass; truly laugh through the pain and you’ll feel better almost instantly, besides it’ll program you into not taking life so seriously all the time.

DID YOU KNOW, your brain kills a thought after 5 SECONDS… Do you ever have a thought or a sudden need to do something like write or draw or whatever it may be, and then you convince yourself to not do it? That’s exactly what I mean. If you ever have an urge to do something, anything at all (that you will benefit from, or something you know you should be doing) just do it, don’t waste another second thinking of reasons of why not to. I’m not in the mood maybe later, or whatever negative thought you have is your brain killing the idea. Don’t let it get to that, if you have a sudden urge, go for it!

4. Don’t ever criticize yourself

~Stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself~
Change the way you see yourself, replace every negative thought with a positive one. If you catch yourself saying something bad about yourself,  turn it into a good saying and add two more good things to say about yourself.
For example: Take- I am ugly… Replace with something like- I am truly unique and beautiful in my own way. My inner and outer beauty doesn’t go unnoticed. I am looking better and better every day.

Are you beating yourself up for not committing to your goals? For procrastinating? For never doing what you set yourself out to do? Stop beating yourself up, instead find the inspiration and motivation to finally do it. Usually, we procrastinate because we connect negative emotions to the goal or thing we must complete, become aware of the energy and thought you have towards it, and change the emotions and meanings and even the believes connected to it. Once again, change your environment to motivate or in a sense help you to start with that goal.

The real reason we procrastinate by Andrew Curby…https://youtu.be/AfRWeybdF2c

5. Rid of toxic people

Love yourself enough to stay away from toxic people who carry bad energy that has a negative effect on you. If something or in this case, someone in your life doesn’t serve you, let it go. I know, it isn’t always the easiest but in a few weeks or months, you’ll be thankful that you made the change.

6. Smile

There is so much power in a genuine smile, just sit and smile for a few minutes and let good thoughts like good memories, gratitude, and love fill your heart. It helps you to be positive more often. If something goes wrong, take a deep breath in and a deep breath out and just smile, telling yourself that it’s okay, and the world isn’t ending because of it.


~I hope that this was helpful, have an amazing day and remeber that you are worthy of your own love❤🤗🌸

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  1. This was truly one amazing blog i wish i could write something so interesting

    Wel done karlien i loved it

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  2. Really good points and new lessons, will definitely read on feng shui. Thanks for sharing

    Getting drunk on wine of the soul-Gratitude is 👌🏼. Point number four is very essential. I realized we have tendencies of self criticism because of comparisons something that has been encouraged by today’s technologies on social platforms and lifestyles. Affecting our confidence levels, and self independence limiting growth. Then there’s limited beliefs which If not checked can really limit.

    Nice article.

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  3. ❤Thanks,🔥 Yeah, you speak nothing but the truth, I wish social media and advertisements and the society as a whole would try and be more open-minded instead of setting a false standard that they want everyone else to live by.
    People should love themselves for who they are and if they want to change it must be because they want to do it for themselves and nobody else.

    Your comments are always appreciated. Thanks again.❤🤗

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  4. What an awesome post. You hit on some great tips and it is well written. I always say that you have to be the best you. You can’t try to be someone you see in ads or on social media. You explained this perfectly. Stay safe.

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  5. We are worthy of time. Especially time we spend being grateful for where we are and the world we have around us. We cannot change what has unfolded in the past, whether within our out if our control, but we can put I’ve for in front of the other to make today lead to a beautiful tomorrow.

    Thank you for sharing. 😊

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  6. You give me too much credit dear friend, you truly have a way with words🔥❤ Thanks for reading and leaving your wonderful comment❤🤗


  7. I am at a loss for words once again😍 Your love and support means a lot to me🤗❤ You inspire and motivate me in indescribable ways and for that I am utmost grateful❤❤


  8. Maybe you and I should start a book together😄…. You truly are a beautiful soul and I hope that you know that🔥❤


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