What it means to truly love yourself

The path to truly love yourself starts with self-validation, awareness, and the will to accept all that you are while becoming the best that you can be.


Who is the one person you spend the most time with? If your answer is anyone other than yourself, you are wrong. Most of your time is spent with yourself, so you need to make that time well spent by loving yourself, by working on yourself, by having fun, and by creating a loveable inner world.

Loving yourself means to be the best for yourself, and to push yourself to become a better version of yourself every single day. Putting in the time, love, and care as you would in any other relationship, committing ourselves to ourselves like never before.

Loving yourself means becoming your own best friend and partner. You wish only the best for your partner or friends, right? Start wishing the best for yourself. Start seeing your true worth and let life align with your worth and standards. I’m not saying that you should let all your friends and your partner go to play that role, no, you can start to play that role without diminishing any friendships and relationships.

Start being there for yourself, isn’t that what love is? To support, care, cherish, appreciate, and spend time with someone, to protect and motivate, to help someone back on the right path, and all these million little things. Everyone defines love differently, but I view it as these little things that add up into love.

We give our love and time away so easily, without keeping some of it for ourselves. The more love you put into yourself, the more love you will have to give away.


Why should you love yourself

Create long-term positive change

Slefvalidating, self-caring, self-loving, and self-motivating behaviors are lifetime-changing factors to a better mindset, better life, and better emotional intelligence. It strengthens your relationship with yourself which in return can have positive impacts on other relationships.

Selflove has long-lasting effects if it is being applied consistently.

Show up more for others

Showing up for yourself and giving yourself the love you need, will give you the needed energy to give that love to other people.

Teaches you to value your inner voice over the opinions of others

Loving and trusting yourself, means to follow your own heart and mind, and to go after what you want without listening to the naysayers. If you feel good about something, why should it matter if someone else feels it is not right for you. You are your person and you can make your own choices.

We all have an inner voice, and the more we listen to it, the clearer it starts speaking to us. What other people think of you is their business, don’t make it yours. Their opinions will only get you so far.

Accept your flaws and get unstuck from the past

No one is perfect. We are all flawed. The sooner you accept and come to love your flaws, the better. If you want to change1 those flaws, go for it, whatever makes you happy, just remember to accept yourself as you are while working to become all you could be. This is a huge part of what self-love stands for.

We are human beings and we make mistakes. The past is in the past. You will never heat it back. It doesn’t help to fret about it, thinking or hoping that it went down differently. Loving yourself means to accept past mistakes, to accept where you’ve been wrong, and to accept and forgive where you valued others over yourself. Selflove is forgiving both yourself and others for any wrongdoings, and therefore you’ll be able to get unstuck from the past that has a tight grip on you.

Heal yourself

Self-love heals us from the inside out. It heals our energy as we forgive others and ourselves. It makes us emotionally intelligent. It helps us look out for ourselves more in a health department. Self-love is a powerful healer.


It sets your standards

When you love yourself, you realize your worth. You realize your standards. You begin to know yourself on a deeper level and you’ll start to see why you should not settle. When you love yourself right, you won’t allow someone else not to do the same.

Builds confidence

This goes without saying. Self-love means accepting yourself, validating yourself, and getting to know yourself, these factors are huge for confidence building.

Ways to love yourself

A 6-Step Process For Learning How To Actually Love Yourself

Prioritize yourself.

Put yourself first, even if it’s just for a little while. Learn to love yourself without the love of others. Take yourself out on a date, have fun, learn a new hobby, or continue doing something you hadn’t done in a long time.

Make a gratitude journal and give thanks daily, I talk from personal experience when I say it is life-changing. And if you’re into the law of attraction and manifestation and that kind of thing, you won’t regret being grateful. The power of Gratitude


Set goals, have dreams, and work on yourself. Loving yourself means looking in the mirror and liking what you see, while still wanting to look good/better for yourself, not only physically but mentally and spiritually too. Beauty goes beyond the surface.

It is so important for you to motivate yourself to accomplish your goals. You want the best for you, don’t you? Grow in any way possible. Become the best version of yourself. I know I say this a lot, and I’ll say it till I’m blue, but changing ourselves for the better is the start to change the world for the better. Make yourself proud

Do yourself a favor and research Fung Shui- Purplelotusyoga.com

Do what you love

Find your passion, follow it, work on it, and just have fun. If something makes you happy, do more of it. If you like meeting new people, go out and meet new people. If you like dancing, take dancing lessons, or dance your heart out while no one is watching. Drawing, draw. Singing, sing. Just have fun.


Have fun!

Think about it, you are drawn to fun and playful people, they make you happy and bring out your inner child. Take the time to connect with your inner child by having fun, by exploring what makes you feel exhilarated and free.

Which also leads me to laughter. Laugh as much as you can. See the world through a child’s eyes and see the humor in all situations.

Prioritize yourself

The way I see it is that you can either criticize yourself or cheer yourself on. You can either see the bad or look for the good. You can dwell on the mistakes and failures or you can celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how big or how small.

Change the way you see yourself, replace every negative thought with a positive one. If you catch yourself saying something bad about yourself,  turn it into a good saying and add two more good things to say about yourself.

Stop procratinating

Procrastination breaks down your belief and trust in yourself because you’re not doing what you said you’ll do by when you said you’ll do it. You are lying to yourself.

Stop beating yourself up when you didn’t do what you say you were going to do, instead find the inspiration and motivation to finally do it. Usually, we procrastinate because we connect negative emotions to the goal or thing we must complete, become aware of the energy and thought we have towards it and change the emotions and meanings and even the believes connected to it.

I was a well-known procrastinator, and the one thing that helped me change it was making the pain by not doing it greater than the pain of doing the thing.

The real reason we procrastinate by Andrew Curby

Rid of toxic people

Love yourself enough to stay away from toxic people who carry bad energy that hurts you. If something or in this case, someone in your life doesn’t serve you, let it go. I know, it isn’t always the easiest but in a few weeks or months, you’ll be thankful that you made the change.

Value yourself enough to set standards and decide around which type of behavior you are allowed to hang around and which behaviors are a red flag and which behaviors are best to distance yourself from. Remember that you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.


There is so much power in a genuine smile, just sit and smile for a few minutes and let good thoughts like good memories, gratitude, and love fill your heart. It helps you to be positive more often. If something goes wrong, take a deep breath in and a deep breath out and just smile, telling yourself that it’s okay, and the world isn’t ending because of it.


Do things to uplift your spirit

Pray. Do shadow work. Have gratitude practices, like gratitude journaling or meditation. Dance freely. Meditate.

Become mindful

Become more mindful/present in moments in conversation. When eating, don’t let your mind wander, but truly taste and focus on the food you are eating. Become present when you find yourself in great negativity, pain, or whichever else, become present and think of how to disconnect from the past and that energy.

Self-care practices

Journal. Excercise. Long baths. Treat yourself. Meditate. There are hundreds of things you could do to take care of yourself, just google it and find something that resonates, and take the time to take care of yourself.

Stop the comparing game

Burn this into your brain! You are your own person, with your own emotions, thoughts, lifestyle, goals, and path. You have your journey, and there is no right way to walk it. There is no right place to be at a certain time. Stop letting society and social media, and other people dictate how you should live your life.

You have your journey, and they have theirs. Stop comparing. Stop competing.

By negatively comparing yourself to someone, and feeling superior/inferior is your fast track to a downfall. You are perfect in your imperfections. If there is something you want to change, change it, but make sure you are doing so for yourself and no one else. 

Be honest about your flaws

Honesty with yourself will go a long way. Take accountability and responsibility for all your actions, accomplishments, and mistakes. Your flaws are worth celebrating, worth recognizing and worth learning, and growing from.

Make a list of your accomplishments

It is important to remind yourself of all you’ve accomplished, to motivate you for your capabilities to accomplish your future or present goals. You owe it to yourself to be proud of yourself.



You should be able to love yourself fully, flaws, mistakes, achievements, thoughts, actions, body, skills, personality, and every other aspect of yourself. Self-acceptance and self-validation is the main key to self-love, it will grow you emotionally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

~I hope that this was helpful, have an amazing day and remember that you are worthy of your own love ❤

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  1. Salman Wani says:

    Great post!!

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  2. karlien09 says:

    🤗Thanks a lot, glad you liked it🌸

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  3. Salman Wani says:

    All pleasure is mine!!

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  4. Dennis says:

    This was truly one amazing blog i wish i could write something so interesting

    Wel done karlien i loved it

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  5. karlien09 says:

    Thanks Dennis, it means a lot coming from you🤗❤


  6. kinge says:

    Really good points and new lessons, will definitely read on feng shui. Thanks for sharing

    Getting drunk on wine of the soul-Gratitude is 👌🏼. Point number four is very essential. I realized we have tendencies of self criticism because of comparisons something that has been encouraged by today’s technologies on social platforms and lifestyles. Affecting our confidence levels, and self independence limiting growth. Then there’s limited beliefs which If not checked can really limit.

    Nice article.

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  7. karlien09 says:

    ❤Thanks,🔥 Yeah, you speak nothing but the truth, I wish social media and advertisements and the society as a whole would try and be more open-minded instead of setting a false standard that they want everyone else to live by.
    People should love themselves for who they are and if they want to change it must be because they want to do it for themselves and nobody else.

    Your comments are always appreciated. Thanks again.❤🤗

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  8. inspirechief says:

    What an awesome post. You hit on some great tips and it is well written. I always say that you have to be the best you. You can’t try to be someone you see in ads or on social media. You explained this perfectly. Stay safe.

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  9. karlien09 says:

    ❤🤗Glad you like my post and I am happy to hear you see it the same way
    Thanks, you too🤗❤

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  10. Hamish says:

    We are worthy of time. Especially time we spend being grateful for where we are and the world we have around us. We cannot change what has unfolded in the past, whether within our out if our control, but we can put I’ve for in front of the other to make today lead to a beautiful tomorrow.

    Thank you for sharing. 😊

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  11. karlien09 says:

    Very well said🔥🤗

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  12. shadawss shadawss says:

    Actually you are sharing self improvement tips

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  13. karlien09 says:

    ….True, thanks for that🤗 I’ll improve the blog as quickly as possible🔥
    Thank you very much❤🤗


  14. shadawss shadawss says:

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  15. karlien09 says:

    I am very happy to hear that❤🤗


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  17. You are absolutely a goddess of creativity!

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  18. karlien09 says:

    You give me too much credit dear friend, you truly have a way with words🔥❤ Thanks for reading and leaving your wonderful comment❤🤗


  19. Your home page in is inspiring *&* I visit there often to reflect how poetic and rare that you surely are!

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  20. I am honored to congrats you!

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  21. karlien09 says:

    I am at a loss for words once again😍 Your love and support means a lot to me🤗❤ You inspire and motivate me in indescribable ways and for that I am utmost grateful❤❤


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  23. karlien09 says:

    Maybe you and I should start a book together😄…. You truly are a beautiful soul and I hope that you know that🔥❤


  24. We shall discuss it *&* I agree. Thank you!

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